czperv123 - I would give it a few more tries to fine tune the experience if you can - it definitely gets better once you get used to what works best
I have the Victoria Mouth sleeve as well and its my current go to fav sleeve of the dozens I have tried over the years, so Im surprised you havent been enjoying it as of yet
The motor sound is actually the best/quieter of most of the other 'suction' toys/motors out there, and there are several things you can do to try to tweek the suction to your liking:
To reduce the suction affect being overly tight, try:
-removing the rubber 0-ring
-removing the inner plastic sleeve cup
-slightly leaving the powerblow slightly unscrewed
-trying with a looser, softer fleshlight sleeve, like the the Turbo Thrust, etc
May I ask what lube you are using? I highly recommend gun oil h20 if you aren't already using