@alexnash I'd love to see more sustained cheating. More of the "don't worry, she's not going to find out" type stuff, where the female is the pursuer, convincing you that it's ok to cheat for whatever reason (she's away on work, she won't mind, she's a bitch ,etc)
The actress needs to sell it, so someone like Amber Stark, Aubree Valentine, or Anya Olsen. A girl who gets into the role and can make you believe it (kinda the point of VR)
Alternatively, there's the "shot caller" concept. Where say your GF or wife brings home a girl for you, and she aggressively calls the shots on what happens, providing commentary the whole time. She may or may not actually join. Basically a cuckquean situation.