Am I gay or straight?

PetieT

Such a question. I watch traditional porn, and I like it all. But very often I look at my friend and something in me wakes up. I'm not sure if I'm gay, because I don't like gay porn. But still... How do I check?

Mutiny

PetieT Good on you for being open to learning more about yourself. It can be challenging but being honest about who you really are is freedom.

Keep in mind, gay vs straight isn't a binary situation. It's a spectrum. Very few people are truly 100% one or the other. And beyond sexual orientation, there are different levels of romantic attraction as well. Think of it more as a 2-axis grid, where one axis is sexual desire and the other is romantic desire. You might want a fuck a guy, but not snuggle. Or you might want to go to brunch and snuggle, but otherwise not really be into sex. Every point on the grid is valid. It's just a matter of figuring out where you are and proudly being that with your whole self. (Or your hole self, if that's your thing.)

Best of luck to you on your journey!

AlterEgo

MandyLis

I can tell you what a friend of mine did to check if he was gay or not. He tried watching gay porn. Then he switched to gay webcams. That's where he finally realized he was bisexual after all. Maybe this will help you, too. He was just sending me a good webcam.lgbt the other day. You should try it. I wish you find harmony within yourself! I hope you can accept yourself!

petergriff

It's not a yes or no, it's a spectrum.

I'm bi, but I only like feminine guys. I like men's bodies but typically not their faces. I'm in my 40s and still figuring shit out.

Gay porn is a horrible litmus test, btw. A vast majority of it is the same kind of dude over and over.